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You are correct, and there are thousands of children *already here* who need the kind of home you and your wife can offer. 

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And for less than $60,000 and no bedrest (no lost pregnancies, no associated heartache, not to mention the stress on your body) you could have offered a loving, stable, deserving home to two children whose only needs were to be chosen and loved. 

I would be interested in a conversation among people, like you, who have gone to such great lengths to have their own children -even in the face of great financial, physical and emotional stress -rather than consider adoption. 

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Good points which bring up other ethical questions...  I knew a man who supplemented his financial aid in college with the help of the payment he received from sperm donation.  At the time, he was young and healthy and, evidently, unaware of the mental illness that plagued both sides of his family.  Years later, he suffered from crippling (and violent) depression and has never notified the sperm bank. 

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Amen.

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Good point, and likely we would not.  Though that would bring up another host of ethical questions: surrogacy is one thing, but a baby factory?

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Why are we not talking about adoption???

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While my initial reaction to the octuplets (plus 6) was one of horror and disgust steeped in judgement, further reflection leaves me sad.  Sad for the tens (hundreds?) of thousands of children who are not adopted every year, sad for the women whose desperate need for a child outweighs all else, and (as a teacher of at-risk youth) sad for a society that does a mediocre job of caring for the children already on this planet. 

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