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My boyfriend of 20 years, and I decided early in our relationship that we weren't very interested in having children. But we always left the option open, in case we changed our minds. The reasons early on mostly had to do with being so madly in love with each other that we didn't want to share. And we didn't want the growing up that comes with children. The US growing up. Things never changed. After 20 years we are still madly, and maybe selfishly in love. And everyone's argument for? We'd be such great parents. And we would have been, but that certainly isn't reason enough for a child. We have always wanted to have the freedom to do what we want, when we want, and that's okay. I rarely have fleeting moments of "what if?", but I'm serene and content with the choices we made. He's my life and I'm his, and that makes for a wonderful and fulfilling relationship. We're happy, why mess with a good thing?

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