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I know how you feel kfairchild. I myself am having to make the same choice of either pursuing my career or my relationship. I'm 26, and I am working on getting my masters degree in green manufacturing. My situation is a little different in that I am already married, but the choice is still the same. My career or my relationship with my wife. I am beginning the process of getting placed for an internship, which means moving away. My wife already has a very good job working in finance, and is moving up the ladder. We may need to leave Virginia for my internship, but she said she is staying where her job is.

I am in full fledged crisis mode here. Just like the article mentioned; instability, isolation, frustration, and reassessment. These are the mark of my life currently. Did I get married too soon? What's more important? Should I sacrifice? Should she? Reassessment is an understatement for me right now. Much like you, the career/relationship dichotomy is my greatest uncertainly to date, and possibly my greatest regret. I pray this isn't the case. Only time will tell.

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Jayne, I am so glad to hear that you took care of your mother, and didn't bail when things got too difficult. Too often, children are willing to aid their parents just as long as the parents are of sound mind and body. But when things get tough, or their parents start to forget things, they put them right into a home and never visit them again. I'm not saying that there are not times when seniors need proper medical supervision. What I am saying is that there are options. Some seniors may need to be admitted to a facility, while others can get by with using medical alert systems and their families. As someone who is staring down the possibility of caring for his parents in the next few years, it is comforting to hear a story like yours. Thank you for sharing Jayne, and God Bless.

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