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Have we forgotten the plethora of news articles and sensationalism in the late 70s and early 80s when young adult women were finally speaking out about the sexual abuse they suffered as children? Do you remember that the women were accused of creating those memories and there were no lawsuits against the perpetrators of those heinous crimes, most of whom were family members. What is the message we are sending here? Men who have been abused by men are entitled to monetary damages and women no doubt made up their stories of abuse.
We are all still homophobic. These cases of adult men preying on boy children seems to have raised a lot more outrage than did the cases of adult men preying on girl children. I surmise from this that the population as a whole cannot deal with male on male abuse, but questions and dismisses male on female abuse.
I speak from personal experience. There was no one who believed me, in fact people asked me "well, did you enjoy it?" "what did you do to bring the attention on yourself?" My experience was not unique. After 3 years of therapy I was able to put that aside, but I was never able to sue the perpetrators.
When are we going to stop suing each other at the drop of a hat and get the help we need as a community and as individuals to move past the iniquities perpetrated against each other? Litigation does nothing to heal the wounds.
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