I am a teacher, aunt, and wife. My first two roles require that I fully engage with kids ranging from 3-18 years old and my entire professional life has revolved around 11-18 year olds. I love kids: my nieces & nephews, and most of my students! There's a 'but'. But, my husband and I have really struggled with the extremely high cost (emotionally and financially) of adoption, should we choose to be involved with children as parents. As former wilderness rangers and people who work to protect the land and resources from continued decimation, we made our decision early on that we don't need to be parents in the traditional sense, so what about adoption, foster care?? So, adoption: we're scrutinized by ourselves, the adoption agency, and birth parents, yet we need to put forth a huge amount of time, energy, and money to MAYBE be chosen by a birth mother who reads about us on paper and says, "they're the ones for my child."?? We have barely started the process and feel so overwhelmed. As 30-somethings, we're the 'odd' ones in our families, who all started their own families several years ago, and most of our friends have children who are in elementary school already. Too many people on the planet, not enough resources including the most basic: true TLC for kids, make us think our initial concerns about people are true: too many folks just don't give enough thought prior to having children. And, we're the 'odd' ones for giving the massive responsibility of raising well-rounded, loved kids, a considerable amount of thought/concern?? We need some societal perspective shifts, and NOW. The planet, & hearts of those who inhabit it, can't sustain at this pace.
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