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That is a good point you make, swimmer. I never really dealt with my sexual abuse until after I was raped in college. I had not learned how to properly deal with these situations until it happened again. All the old feelings of guilt and shame resurfaced. It took a couple years of counseling to come to a place where I could accept that both situations were not my fault.
To the mother who suspects her daughter may have been abused - may I suggest counseling. Pick the right counselor, though. Someone you can trust and someone you think your daughter will trust. Then, let her go in alone. I went to a lot of family counseling as a kid and never opened my mouth. But the counselor I found after being raped was an amazing, caring woman. I was finally able to talk about the sexual abuse and find closure.
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