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I have chosen to remain childless because I value and prioritize my relationship with my wife. I have observed many – if not most – parents promoting their relationship with their child and in the process, subordinating their relationship with their partner.  Moreover, I have chosen my partner. I know her and I love her. If I had a child, their personality is an unknown entity, how would I know I would get on with my child, or love them as much as my wife? That is quite a gamble and given the low statistical possibility of my child and I having cohesive personalities, unlikely that I would be happy with the outcome.  Why would I want to risk my wonderful relationship with a partner who is perfect for me for an unknown relationship with a child?

Lastly, even with a dual graduate-degree household, there is no way we could afford to meet a child's needs with our incomes. It seems foolish to add additional financial stress to a household.

posted 3 years, 8 months ago
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