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I'm from a wealthy family; sexually molested in my crib 'til age 10.  Due to statue of limitations (SOL), can't press charges; had to be by age 21...all I wanted was to get away from my family.  Now I'm completely unnable to trust men, can't afoord sufficient counseling.  My brother, the perpetrator, inherits families business; a multi-millionaire in a 9000 sq ft mansion w/ vacation homes in Mexico.  He molested his daughters, but realized SOL too late, too.  I live in a trailer, go to a food bank. My brother admitted to family that he abused me, but said, "we were just kids, no big deal".  He's 11 years older, I was 1, he was 12.  I'll never overcome PTSD, constant fear/anxiety; they proved childhood abuse at an early age damages brain development.  My IQ is 131...I wonder who/what I might have been, had this not happened.  We must do more to prevent this, but it's a multi-faceted problem.  Thousands of emotionally crippled victims can't function in relationships, are lonely.  I'm crippled w/ no legal recourse.  Family protects my brother so aristocratic community won't find out the truth. I'm shunned..  My parents never protected me, now SOL + they protect him !  Perpetrators know SOL; so their victims are helpless.  Takes YEARS to figure out why one's depressed, can't trust, why relationships fail...then, it's too late! I'm angry at our "justice" system.  Innocent children should not have to pay for crimes of their fathers/brothers/etc. the rest of their lives.  We need counseling...it's costly, we can't afford adequate treatment.  Perpetrators should pay, not us.  Laws protect the violater.  Insurance companies fight eliminating SOL...sick...why do I have to struggle to live just because I didn't file a case before I was 21? My innocence was stolen. I can't get it back. Sex w/ my brother before I walk/talk? NOBODY  understands what it does to your psyche except those who suffer these crimes.  I don't care about prison, I just want financial compensation for treatment.  I want to be in love, but can't overcome my phobias. PLEASE, use every angle to fight, start by lifting SOL so perps don't think they can get away with murdering a childs soul because too much time elapsed.  There should be NO SOL.  Molesting a child is like killing one, ...I wish I was dead. Is that justice? My brother has wife, family, grandchildren. I have nobody..nothing.

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