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I am 33 and have chosen not to have children.  Growing up my husband and I did not have positive role models for parents. I did not want to make the same mistakes as our parents did. As only children, we were also concerned that with dysfunctional parents, who could we rely on for help with raising kids? We rarely got questioned in our 20's about whether or not we would have kids.  As the years went by, our friends had kids, and we were happy giving them back at the end of the day.  People tell me I am selfish in this thinking, however I feel it is selfish to have a child for the wrong reasons. My husband and I went through a period of time where he started to want to have kids and I still did not feel that "instinct" that most women claim to get.  We talked at length for years, and we have come to an agreement: we agree to disagree.  I cannot imagine having a child if both partners aren't in total agreement.

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