Thirty years ago I traveled about 300 miles from the rural area where I lived to a large city where abortion was readily available. I was married with two children, one of whom was facing serious health problems. I'd been faithfully using mechanical birth during while breast feeding my younger child. I knew I could not handle either the pregnancy itself or do justice to my two existing children with another one.
I knew it was the right decision at the time and have never had any regrets.
I wish I had been able to get this procedure locally, but at least it was safe and legal.
Very few people know about this. It would be better if more women talked openly about having had abortions, but knowing that some folks will consider you a murderer leads to silence on the topic.
An additional problem I have not seen addressed is that medical forms for women ask how many abortions you have had. If you are honest everyone in that office knows and those who believe abortion is murder must see you as a monster. When I learned that my family care provider believed abortion was wrong, I wrestled with what to do about that. Eventually I transferred to another doctor. We never discussed this long past abortion but just knowing he felt that way created a communication barrier for me.
posted 4 years, 8 months ago
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