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rape does have different degrees and the way you r raised does make a difference in how you feel about it. but it does not make it right or ok. no the burden of proof should not fall on just the accused but for so many years if a woman or girl was raped she was put on trial not the jerk who did it. questions were asked like how many rolls of fat did he have or not have, how many scars did you see, what size was his ...., why did you decide to pick on him. even when talking about an 11 year old child and a forty three year old man. so maybe its time they have to defend themselves when they rape someone instead of the victim having to defend themselves against the rapist over and over again.

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when i was a young teenager i like many other kids tried things i should not have. one of those being alchohl. when i was coherent again i had a naval recruting officer on top of me and found out i had had 2 others use me before him. i was embarassed and ashamed. but was told that since i hadn't said no it was my fault for being in the circumstance, never mind that i was passed out drunk and didn't know what was going on. that is not sex abuse no matter how you look at it it is never ok to take away someones right to choose whether they want to have sex with you or not. now many years later i still fear most men and don't trust them. rape causes damage that is hard to heal from and if you are not capable of consenting or say no it is rape.

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