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Being someone that is married without any plans to have children, and having been raised by a single mother, I find it very personally offensive that my family and the family that raised me is not a "valid" family according to the guest.  i did not need my father - actually i think i did better without him, from what I know about him.

Why, if children are the primary reason for marriages, does the guest not push for some sort of prerequisite for married couples to produce children as a condition of getting married, instead of just denying gay people the right to marry?

posted 2 years, 5 months ago
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you know what is funny to me - people often tell my wife and i that it is such a selfish decision to not have children, but when asked why we should have children we are often told that "you just will never know the joy of having a child, and watching it grow up..." but isn't having children in order to make yourself happy - at the expense of the environment, etc. - an even more selfish decision?

posted 3 years, 8 months ago
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as a husband in a willfully childless couple, i feel, as the man, that when we tell people, they assume that it's my decision, and that i have somehow pressured my wife into not having children (because everyone assumes all women want children), where, if anything, she feels more strongly about it.

posted 3 years, 8 months ago
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