It's not about retardation. I see that most of the arguments in the media, not just your post, tend to dismiss our concerns as motivated by ego or other frivolous concerns. The one that shocked me the most was basically, "Autistic people resist change, so of course this bothers them."
I don't have anything against anyone who suffers from any condition. But objectively when I look at someone who's autistic and incapable of functioning as an adult -- my belief about that person is that they have something different than what I have. It is true that I don't care about accuracy to the extent that if we share a common imbalance in our brain chemistry or something, I don't feel that is the most pertinent thing to focus on.
Is there a reason I should want to be associated with these people? Would it be good for them or me? Do you want to be associated with these people?
I don't understand why so many people write off our concerns as motivated by ignorance or egotism. And Asperger's is not an excuse for who we are, either. In fact, I think you really have to kind of hide it and pretend to be normal in order to function in the real world. That's how I've lived my life and how I raise my son, although it is helpful to know exactly what you're hiding, fighting, coping with, however you want to put it.
And that's really the crux of it -- people with "low functioning autism" can't function in the real world. Why should people who do function, albeit with stressors that deviate from the norm of society, be considered with them? We also typically have advantages that differ from the norm of society.
For every story I could tell you about becoming hopelessly lost while following apparently simple directions, I could also tell you about some time I creatively solved a problem through applied nonlinear thinking.
What this whole situation really tempts me to do is tell my son, "Forget it, you no longer have Asperger's. Don't ever talk about that again."
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