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You know, this is just, boiled down to its essence, an argument about moral relativism and whether or not there are absolutes.  I'm sorry, when playing jazz music becomes the equivalent of parenting, well, I'm honestly surpised I even have to make the comparison, even to those influenced by the "Me" generation.  Having a hobby, an interest, even a passion, is a positive and laudible value.  But has Maslow-ish thinking so infected our parents and us that we view one equal to the other?  The best analogy I can think of is, (admittedly, a bit of an extreme example, but not THAT much) one person bends over to pick up a piece of litter and disposes of it properly, another flies to Haiti and feeds orphans displaced by an earthquake.  Both are good things.  Both should be encouraged and add value to society.  They are not, however, equal in value, nor are they anywhere near equal in commitment. 

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It's fine if you choose not to have a child.  Our adult daughter is married, for 6 years, and so far shows no desire to have children.  That is fine.  But to equate taking care of a child, investing yourself in the life of another human being, to wanting to leave work for BAND practice is beyond narcissistic.  Please, at least acknowledge that nurturing another human being is more important than getting really tight in your garage band.  Or at LEAST acknowledge that you can't really relate because you haven't had the experience, and that MAYBE one is more important than the other.

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