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I couldn't agree with you more. Congratulations on the work you've done and I share the "joys of fatherhood" right along side you. The point that I really wanted to clarify is that, in my perspective, fathers and fatherhood is discounted when we are referred to a Mr. Mom, or as the promotion for this program stated "fathers are becoming more like mother's." I hear in your note that you are proud of being a father. So am I. That is being a father, not becoming a mother. I think we are in agreement there. Cheers

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Please, Fathers are not becoming mom's. For one to refer to an active father as "Mr. Mom" is missing an important distinction. Fathers are becoming more active parents and more active fathers -- not mothers. Fathers bring distinctly different skills and perspective to the role of a parent than mothers do. Sure there is overlap in the care and raising of a child, but a father's role is, and will be different.
Let's give Fathers the respect of recognizing the special attributes that fathers bring to parenting -- first by not mistaking them for mothers. And, let's not diminsh the role of mothers either -- or single parents of either sex. Together, or solo, mothers and fathers are parents.

Leigh O'Malley, LMHC. I am a therapist working with families / fathers / mothers / victims and perpetrates of domestic violence / family issues. I lead several fathering groups in Southwest Washington.

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