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I appreciate that the their is a common thread among the guests on your show of living with the parents being a temporary thing to healp them toward reaching a goal, part of which is to be independant and on their own. whenever I hear people talking about moving in with their parents, or having their kids move in with them a lot of red flags pop up, mostly because of the experience I've observed with my in-laws. My sister-in-law was having a hard time shortly after graduating from college and moved back in with her parents. they set no boundries and had no discussions about what her goals were. She has never worked more then part-time, has never gone back to school, has never contributed to the overall family income (paying rent, groceries, ect.) Other then a brief 1.5 years back on her own when her parents moved to OR, she has been living with them. She is now a 37 year old who spends most of her free time watching TV, surfing the internet or going on dates with her Mother. This has not been good for her or for her parents. She is a huge drain on them both emotionally and finacially and her life sadly seems to be going nowhere. I guess my point is, that having your kids live with you to get on their feet can have debilitating consequences for both them and you if as the parents you don't set some boundaries and have clear goals in view from the beginning.
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