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When our daughter was born a year ago, my husband didn't miss a beat. He is as in love with her as I am, and he parents and cares for her with the same level of enthusiasm as I do. We have always had a very equal relationship and that continues as we parent our child. I find it odd when women talk about their husbands "babysitting" their children when mom is away. A father is not a stand-in for mom. He's an equal partner with equal caregiving abilities and responsibilities. From my observations, the problem is sometimes the mom who refuses to relinquish control to the husband or doesn't trust him to look after the child as well as she does. Moms -- dads might do things differently, but you're depriving them of bonding opportunities when you don't give them the opportunity to spend time together.

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