As a parent of a 14 year old and an 11 year old... I am Christian, so follow/teach biblical values... being concerned about this issue for my kids, and being aware of what’s going on in the world and seeing statistics that abstinence does not prevent sex before marriage, the percent of grade school children “sexting” on their phones, etc etc ... my question is: what is sex? Is it strictly intercourse? If so, we teach that is “bad/wrong”, so kids have anal sex/oral sex and still get diseases, become confused about homosexual behavior, etc. etc….
I have made it one of my personal priorities to first learn about what’s going on in the world, learn what my school is teaching – health, sex ed, physiology, sociology, etc. Then seriously reviewing this “knowledge” and how does it align or not with my families values. Then having informed and age appropriate conversations regularly about this with my kids. I do not feel it’s ok to have a one-time; one-size fits all, “sex talk” with my child.
My totally biased opinion is we need more continuous communication between parents and their kids – we need to teach them (over and over, at an age appropriate levels) and listen to them: what are hormones? Why do I feel this way? What are the behaviors of “sex”? What are the diseases you can catch? What are the consequences? How is real life different than what I see in the media? What are the legal issues? How does this affect me? Etc.
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